Stats class and therapy.

Statistics thankfully does not seem like it's gonna be too stressful. Verrecchia is seriously more relaxed in this summer session than during the fall and spring. He's a very straight forward, professional no nonsense kind of person. He does crack jokes and stuff, but he has the type of personality that's very authoritative and rather intimidating.

In therapy, right now we're talking about how I can show I care and how to be a good friend. This week though, Kristen brought up that she thinks from what I'm saying that Justin says, he sounds like he's actually rather selfish about what he wants/thinks/feels. Justin comes up a lot in discussion because he is the person I'm with most, the one who is bringing to my attention where I'm not being the best person. So if he's making me aware, of course he'll come up. I have to agree, as I talk about this stuff with Kristen, I do feel like I'm not doing as bad as he cries about sometimes. He is over empathetic and too nice, and he takes things entirely too personally regardless of how many times I tell him that things I say are nothing personal.

I become so consciously aware of my words and actions around him so I don't do something wrong, that I'm unconsciously aware of how anxious and nervous I am when I'm with him. And it's not healthy for me to be walking on egg shells all the time.

Some people might say "well maybe you two just aren't good friend material then". But honestly, we do have enough there to be friends. I just have issues to work on, and the areas that I struggle with are areas that come natural for him (talking, making friends). He doesn't understand what it's like for me, so we butt heads.

I know some of the problems are my fault, but he does have a role too.

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Comments (6)

  1. noahbody

    Friction can only occur between 2 surfaces. Have you ever really tried to explain it to him?

    June 11, 2014
    1. alishaquigley

      Yes. I’ve explained as best as I can, but as always, I’m careful of what I say because I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I just don’t know how to talk it out, and this is why I hope he does agree to come with me to a counseling session, because my therapist actually asked if he would come along.

      June 11, 2014
      1. noahbody

        Yes. That might help. I hope it works out.

        June 11, 2014
        1. alishaquigley

          I think it would help because all I can do is repeat what he says, to my therapist. I can’t explain or elaborate what he means, so I can’t tell Kristen and she can’t help me identify what needs worked on.

          June 11, 2014
          1. noahbody

            Good. I pray it does.

            June 11, 2014
            1. alishaquigley

              Thanks.

              June 11, 2014